We’ve all heard of the 80/20 rule, whether it be a relative, a Tyler Perry film, or some hurt broad ranting on twitter about niggas aint shit. For all of you who are unfamiliar with the 80/20 rule, it is the notion that in a relationship you will only receive 80% of what you want from your partner. The remaining 20% is all the qualities or desires you hoped to receive from your partner. What would you do if there was a way to attain both that 80 and 20 percent? This is usually how side chicks are born. Now I’m sure a lot of you are wondering why the man needs a side chick in the first place, and I’m here to tell you that he doesn’t. The side chick is not a necessity for every man walking this earth and some men are happy being with one woman. However, the majority of men will tell you they do or have kept a woman on the side before. The main chick is often the woman a man has been with or known for quite a while. He is comfortable with her and potentially could build a life with her. He usually lives with her and/or spends the majority of his time with her. He has raw sex with her and maybe doesn’t pull out because he’s not worried about if she becomes pregnant or not. He would be honored to have her as the mother of his children. She has met his family and is very relaxed around them. She is typically the one he is in love with and has future plans for such as marriage and children. However, the common mistake of the main chick is getting comfortable with her position and becoming lazy after a while. She may no longer do the things she once did to satisfy her man and may even start to slack on her appearance. After being in a relationship for a while the main chick usually reveals her true form. She becomes more selfish, easily angered, and bitchy. You don’t know who this person is because she hid these attributes from you during the beginning of the courtship in hopes of not scaring you off. While not totally intolerable, she does regularly test your patience. The stress of a committed relationship is sometimes too much a for man and he begins to long for a getaway. His getaway is often the side chick. The side chick can offer him just as many benefits as the main chick can. Sex, conversation, stimulation, she cooks, she cleans, you name it then side chick can provide it as well. Now, the only real difference between the side chick and the main chick is the level of affection the man has towards both women, and if the side chick KNOWS about the main chick. Some side chicks do not know they are side chicks simply because the man has keep the fact that he has another woman a secret. In her mind they are in a relationship because of how the man treats her and she feels for him. Some side chicks know exactly what position they play as “the other woman”, and they are fine with that. They don’t care about not being his main chick because half the time they aren’t looking for anything serious themselves. They are perfectly okay with just casually having sex and kicking it with a guy with no real emotional commitment. They have a good understanding of what they want from each other and are just letting the good times roll. There is a common misconception that a man could not love a woman if he cheats on her, this is false. Men love differently than women, men cheat for physical satisfaction most of the time. He still loves his woman he is just sexually attracted to another. Women are attracted to other men as well, however their emotional attachments to their mates usually keep them from acting on their impulses. I am in no way justifying the action of cheating, I am just expressing through a male point of view why is sometimes happens. I for one am I supporter of both polygamy and monogamy. Studies show that women who participate in threesomes with their male counterpart’s usually have less problems in their relationships because she allows the man to fulfill his “needs”. Not saying that everyone should be out having threesomes, but you have to realize that different folks prefer different things. Monogamy isn’t for everyone and neither is polygamy. I believe you should stick to whatever works for you and your partner and what you feel comfortable with. Well, that’s all I have for today people, y’all be cool until next time.
What’s Really Hating?
Besides being a “real nigga” the most wrongfully used term is hands down hating, anything you dislike these days is put right into hating if you let the people tell it so I think it’s time somebody actually break down the two.
Hating-without absolutely NO reason claiming to dislike something/someone just be different or simply just jealous. People only like another person’s success when its something in it for them so therefore if you’re getting in a better position than them they dislike you instead of giving you props for being the one to get to that point. Hate can also come from people who don’t even know you, never really been in your presence or had a conversation with you just going off what they heard or see from facebook/twitter. Lets not forget the worst hate of all that comes between females, yall are just not meant to get along with each other because everything viewed as a competition from things as small as dressing to who weave look the best. There is never a real beef between females just a bunch of he said/she said like they can literally be enemies, become friends then fight and cant tell you one logically reason for anything that happened.
Everything is not hate though some people just dislike things with reason. Everything is not suppose to be agreed on so if a majority likes it and you’re that one who not feeling it you labeled a hater by society when you can straight up just not like it with a list full of facts why you don’t. The person labeled a hater most is the one who gives an honest opinion(like me myself), its so much I dislike and can go into detail why I aint digging it and will still get called a hater because I don’t have a biased opinion. There’s people out there who maybe really just don’t like you because of your personality that’s not hate at all it’s an opinion and you have to accept the fact everybody not gone like you. Every person is not the same don’t be afraid to form your opinion because it disagrees with the majority you not being true to yourself you playing follower the leader.
There it is in an brief write up what hating really is, I could’ve given way more details so I think im gone cook up a part 2 at another time. Are you being hated on or people just really don’t rock with you? Either way don’t matter long as you being you it don’t matter what people on the outside think. Let it be a reason for you to keep going harder to get where you want in life you the only person control that.
Well its been a minute since the last blog I’ve whipped up but I noticed that the topic at hand has been avoided more than bill collectors and Jehovah‘s witnesses combined. Yes ladies and gentlemen I’m here to discuss the dreaded “light skin vs. dark skin beef” and whether I ruffle a few feathers or not I personally don’t give a fuck, Paul Walker died, I still don’t have a PS4, and my front headlight out so my life cant get too much more worse b. First of all let me get this off my chest, there is NOTHING wrong with having a preference. I hear women of all shades say all the time how they prefer a tall, dark skinned man over one of the lighter shade. I’m neither of those things but do you think their preference offends me? Fuck no b. The sooner you realize not everyone is going to want to date you then the better off you’ll be. All that means is you’re not their type and try your luck elsewhere. Now when dealing with preferences you’ll always have to deal with something’s you might not agree with or understand. For example, if you’re a black woman saying how you don’t date lightskin/darkskin guys you can’t be upset if you ever hear a black man saying he doesn’t date black women. You might not like it, you might even say “nigga ya mother is black”, but at the end of the day a person can choose to date whoever they want to date. Its just THEIR preference, not yours. Different strokes for different folks. Me personally, I love and have dated women of all races and will continue to do so. Martin Luther King didn’t die for us to just be date specifically within our race group dog so I‘m taking full advantage of his sacrifice. Now back to the topic at hand, I’ve seen way too many meme’s and tweets slandering both lightskin/darkskin people so I’m here to break down some of the stereotypes of both sides.
Stereotypes of The Light skin Community
Light skin males are feminine, emotionally weak, aren’t “real niggas”, can’t fight and often taking pictures in the mirror more than their girlfriend.
Light skin women are unfaithful, they don’t text back accordingly within a timely manner, they’re gold diggers, and they possess rather large foreheads. (this one however may be a fact)
Stereotypes of the Dark skin Community
Dark skin males have terrible credit, are “real niggas”, have prison records that would make even DMX blush, thieves, and are NOT to be trusted.
Dark skin women aren’t as nice looking as lighter skinned women, they possess almost no good quality hair follicles, they present ratchet behavior in almost every walk of life and their vaginas resemble the most tender of roast beef.
Conclusion: The stereotypes of both the light skin and dark skin communities are ridiculous. Of course they’re absolutely fucking hilarious at times when used in the right manner, but once its applied to crafting peoples real life mentalities it becomes a problem. All light skin dudes aren’t pussy like they presented. Need I remind you all that solid dudes like Max B, Ice Cube, the late Slim Dunkin and Pimp C etc. were all of the lighter shade. Light skin women aren’t how they’re presented to be as well as a matter of fact I don’t even know where the fuck the ‘whole not texting back’ thing came from. If she’s not interested she’s not going to text you back right away no matter what shade her skin tone is. Dark skin males aren’t trouble makers or constantly in and out or jail, some of my closest homies are dark skin and very much positive in the vibes that they possess. Dark skin women aren’t hideous by any means and shouldn’t be discriminated against just because of their complexion. Not saying everyone is model worthy but black is beautiful because of the variations of complexions we do possess and how we make them work for us. With that being said ‘chill fam’ and yall be cool how y’all be cool.
She Just Not Interested
I let yall know already it’s a difference between being thirsty and interest but from more of a understanding point of view but we all know it’s more than one side to every story. Even though more than likely she’s not gone directly tell you its hella signs to show she just not feeling you b but instead of getting the point you become worrisome AF to her.
The most common way to tell she’s not interested in you is constant short texts. I’m a male so I know that getting the number to us is a sign you one step closer to the goal but to a female it’s a complete 360. A female will give you her number out of kindness with already the thought to not respond to you at all. It’s her fault she slick led you on true but that’s just in their character. Whole time you sending sweet nothings trying to get to know her better and she just hitting you with “lol” and “oh ok” is first class “nigga leave me alone!” talk, just leave it alone she not feeling you we all know females LOVE conversation no matter what it’s about. Also if she never hits you up first she not into you you wasting those unlimited texts on a repetitive conversation that never going to land you a free fall in the box.
For this sign…I wouldn’t even call it a sign its common sense that if you have you ask her to come “chill” it’ll never happened and you just annoying tf out of her with the question. Females fiend for attention and can’t wait to be under the guy she dig and will even ask him to come thru so if she never asks you you’re not that guy. All she does is give you an excuse not to be in your presence that should tell you you never gone get that time and telling her she bullshitting not going to make it any better. Respect the curve you should’ve quit when she was giving you short text responses now you officially stamped as worrisome or maybe even thirsty.
Third but def not final is the infamous “send me a pic”. MY NIGGA who doesn’t know females are in love with the camera and those days she really feeling it she’s going to take about a thousand and a few will be sent to you at random. This one question alone can throw you out of all contention of even laying eyes on the box so just relax. They’ve already caught on to the question means nudes anyway so she just gone read it in complete disgust and is completely turned off. In order for you to get the privilege of those nudes you first have to make her comfortable mentally and have her trust that you won’t leak them like a new nigga. You do that by pleasing her mind not a random question that’s gone get you out of here. If you can so that that her interest will grow and next thing you know you receiving straight playboy photo shoots when she hops out the shower of just plain ole bored. As usual I’m just trying to help but this time my fellow man because some of the females think I come at them way to hard when that’s not the case it’s all love over here just thank me later.
Let That Hurt Go 102
I’ve been flexing the last week about dropping this huh? Been slick busy but your favorite session of how to let that hurt go back in. 101 helped a lot of yall out I see slide it to a couple of your friends I appreciate that but this session hear is a about being crazy. It’s really getting out of hand at the amount of females that think claiming crazy is “cute” when you’re nothing of such. It’s about 3 things yall mix with being crazy that’s being bipolar, jealously, and being possessive of something or someone but crazy you nothing of the such so just relax b. Mentally there aint a damn thing wrong with you you just got a case of hurt that you need to let go but you bottle it all up in those bitter thoughts of yours.
Bipolar: A lot of females also claim this which I have not a clue why but FYI it doesn’t stand out. Every female is bipolar and I mean EVERY it’s in you guys nature. You’re overly emotional creatures and you do not know how to control them at all so when you go through a situation like heartache it’s basically over for any many after he doesn’t even get a first impression but that’s for a another session in the future. Mood swings come with being a part of a female as well, you know how you happy then angry at the world in less than 2 seconds? Yeah it’s called a mood swing you not crazy you a female face it. One thing can ruin a female’s whole day and will keep coming back it up because yall like to hold things in then sit and can’t get it out your head because you haven’t got it off your chest. If this description fits you you’re not crazy you bipolar like every other female sit your ass down and let that hurt go.
Possessive: This topic right here can be a whole topic on its own but I’ll leave it at this for the moment. A female automatically becomes possessive once you get her out her grannyz and hit for the first time, after that yall go together in her head and any female that even looks your way becomes her enemy and she ready to take her off the earth for you. This in no way is crazy either its feelings once again that can’t be controlled by a female. We all know it takes time to even get to a female physically and emotionally...well most because of that great wall of China from 101 that they have up so once you get her to point that you can get the bunz you first off should appreciate it but at the same time applaud yourself for defeating that wall and just gone and accept the fact that laying her down brings in about a million more feelings. As men we gotta accept the fact that yall are going to become possessive and yall gotta understand every female isn’t your enemy because they cool with us, you only thinking this because you scared you gone get left again and be alone but you gotta let that hurt go ma.
Jealously: Jealously comes right with possession and you not wanting any other female to be around your “him”. I can say this a million times you not crazy but you’re reacting in fear of competition. Females can’t get along because it’s way too many emotions and yall compete about everything and don’t even know it. Jealously also makes a lot of yall become very petty and messy, you think reacting to get revenge is gone make it even when getting revenge isn’t gone do anything but have you lonely because a man doesn’t put up with as much as you guys do it’s just a way of life don’t shoot the messenger. Well ladies that’s the end of this session sorry for being late but I hope you study and take plenty of notes and always remember if you need a hug it’s 4 of us to choose from but choose wisely because we may have a female on our side who’s bipolar, possessive and hella jealous that’ll take you out. #ChillFam